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Voltaire, the French philosopher was quoted as saying 'I may not agree with what you say, but I will defend, until the death, your right to say it'. NOW that's a belief we could all do with. Let's explore that a bit more. 

What are your beliefs? NO, not what you think you believe, or what you say you believe, but what do you really believe? Do you believe the world is a harsh and cruel one, dictated by a minority who manipulate and control the masses through propaganda and media control, or do you believe that we are all One, on this simple journey within an illusion, and ultimately there is only one truth, There is no right or wrong, it just IS.

Only judgement dictates our beliefs, judging that you are right and 'they' are wrong reinforces your beliefs, but your beliefs are not the truth, they are simply your beliefs. Yours alone.

There are always going to be things, people and situations that you don't agree with, but how and what you choose your reactions will dictate your own 'centeredness' 'wholeness' and balance. Some choose anger, and the core issue of anger is fear. Some choose hurt, again with a core of fear- I'm not good enough, I don't matter etc. But all of the core emotions based on fear are based on the perceived past, or the unknown future. 

Do you believe that just as you are, you're perfect? I mean really perfect? Some may not agree, but that's their opinion. A mentor, years ago gave me some sage advice, he said, 'Tony, what other people think about you is none of your business'.

At the time, that made a lot of sense to me, and still does, I'm sure that some people think I'm a lovely bloke, and there may be some who think I'm an asshole- The MOST important thing is that I believe that I'm just doing my best, with what I've got, and try and constantly, and consistently becoming a better Man, Father, Friend, Lover, Collegue... etc etc, the list goes on. When faced with a sticky situation, I take a pause and ask myself, 'what would love do here?' and then I make my choice based on that belief. Believe me, I don't always get it right, who does? But by consistently pausing, and looking at situations a bit differently, it makes a difference to how I feel about me, and how I feel about me is the most important thing in my life.

Recently, I sat down and wrote a list of what I believe. Some interesting things came out of the ether and i wrote it all down. I'm not going to give you my list, but invite you to make your own list. Write down what you believe, and then ask yourself 'why do i believe this?' Is it really what you believe, or is it something that you've been taught to believe... there are some interesting lessons to be learned from this exercise... you'll probably find what I did... That many of my so-called beliefs weren't my beliefs at all, but someone else's that i have been taught and i thought they were mine. 

You ARE, what you Believe.

Choose carefully.

Namaste n hugs

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We all face situations in our life when we know it's time to let go, but we find it so difficult to do so. The intersection/battle of ego-mind and your heart.

You ego-mind (EM) wants to focus on who's right and who's wrong, it's somone elses fault this happened to me, I'm the victim here as a result of someone else's actions, words or deeds.

The emotions can range from disappointment, all the way to hate and planning conniving for revenge.

You instinctively know that what they have done is wrong... but is it?

As immesurably powerful Souls who have incarnated to feel feelings, and knowing that some of these feelings will make us laugh, and cry, we are here to experience the remembering of who we really are, not the person who looks at us in the mirror in the morning.

No-one can make you feel anything, unless of course you give them permission to. You choose your own responses. Whether you choose joy, abandonment, anger or BEing is your choice.

People push your buttons, but they're YOUR buttons. The emotional buttons you have are there because you haven't quite worked through the issue and decided on what you're going to feel when the buttons are pushed.

One of my buttons has been abandonment. I felt this until I understood that I'm never going to abandon me, and as long as I have love and respect for me, I can't be abandoned by anyone. I have chosen not to feel it. I can still experience it, but I have learned to observe more and judge far less.

Between stimulus and response is a space. How long the space is, defines your own spiritual growth.

An example of this is, in peak hour traffic some dipstick pulls in front of you, narrowly avoiding collision, to make matters worse, when you flash your lights, he/she gives you the finger. OK, that's stimulus.

Now an immediate response can be, your anger rises, you give them the finger, get on your horn and curse and swear at them... Another response is to just let it go as not that important. You make this sort of response because you choose not to get angry. You put yourself first, and not last.

A friend of mine recently found out that an ex of hers was seeing prostitutes whilst in her relationship and after. He's tried to get back with her, but knowing what she knows, she feels betrayed, abandoned and angry. Some would say this is an appropriate response.

But this happened 18 months ago, and she still feels wild and angry, almost on a daily basis and it's now hurting her far more than is healthy.

Letting go of a relationship isn't easy, in fact it's bloody difficult, we've all had to do it and it hurts.

I have found that most often it's the thoughts/regret of 'what might have been' which combines with the fear of 'what if I never find someone else?'.

Both are not real. The past is past, the future hasn't happened, but it's the way you deal with yourself that really matters. If you've found the love within for you, it's far easier to remember, but not with regret, but with gratitude... without the experience you've had, you would not be the person you are today.

When you can look back with love and gratitude for every experience, every feeling and every moment you've experienced you are really moving into who you REALLY ARE.  

Make your choices, choose to love yourself unconditionally, and when you do, be brave enough to do it all over again, because that's where growth is.

Namaste and blessings to you dear One.

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Tony

There's a difference, a BIG difference between the two.

When you want something, anything, if you really wish to manifest it, you can try and acheive it, or you can allow it to take place- stick with me for a moment.

Last week, I was thinking, I'd love to have a pool table, this is where I'd put it, I imagined having a whole heap of fun with friends over winter.

I could have then gone to the papers/websites etc and checked out how much they were, what models there were, saved up for it and then gone and purchased it.

Instead, I closed my eyes and imagined a pool table being there, I saw friends talking, playing and having a few laughs and then said out loud, I give Intent to have a pool table. I held the image of fun, friends and a pool table in my home.

Yesterday, I went to a website called freecycle.org because I had some stuff to give away, I listed my items and was just about to log off when someone else listed a pool table. I sent an email and the lady said, it's yours free if you can pick it up Saturday. Some say a coincidence, I say there is no such thing as coincidence!

This is what I do when I want to manifest. Picture it, feel the feeling of having it in my life and then 'allow' th synchronicity of Spirit to bring it into my life.

Take the path of 'grace' stop trying so hard, if you're trying, you'll drive it away and of course remember, getting what you want is not as important as wanting what you get!

Namaste and blessings to you.

Tony

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At times we all wonder if there’s something we should be doing, that we’re not doing, that is keeping us from moving forward spiritually.

Do you know that feeling? 

It may be forgiveness, and it starts with you and the intimate relationship you perceive with yourself. Like you, I have been my own worst critic, constantly thinking about what I did, what I said, or what I didn’t say, and then beating up on myself for not knowing or doing better.

Your ego-mind loves this because it focuses on the past and dwells in the realm of fear- Fear of failure, fear of what others think of you, fear of letting someone down etc.  

I believe a major step to finding the ultimate balance within, is to commence to become your own best friend again. By best friend I mean the ‘bestest’ friend you’ve ever had.  Its easier being someone else’s best friend, than it is being your own best friend. 

The art of forgiveness of self starts with understanding that at the time, you did the best you could, with the current situation to the best of your ability.  So with the benefit of hindsight, you may have done it, or handled it differently, but you didn’t.

Everything is crystal clear with hindsight. 

I believe that most people don’t forgive themselves because they don’t believe they deserve to, or put in another way, they don’t think much of themselves because they’ve never been taught to. And that’s a shame. 

Another way to look at it is, EVERYTHING you’ve ever done has brought you to this perfect moment right NOW. When I realized that I needed to take some time to forgive myself, I did a couple of things which really helped. 

First I sat down and wrote down everything I could remember that I felt that I’d let people down (it was quite a list). Then I wrote down what I would have done, if faced with the same situation again. It took a while. 

Then I reminded myself that I hadn’t deliberately set out to hurt or harm anyone, I just didn’t know then what I know now. I realized that I had learned. With the learning came the conclusion that it was far easier forgiving someone else than it was forgiving me and I wondered why about that for a quite a while.  

Then I saw everything right NOW as perfect, my life situation, my friends, my increasing perceptions of who I really am. I’m remarkable and so are you; you better come to terms about that one. 

I took everything I had written, tore it all into little strips, and burned it. While it burned I gave myself the gift of appreciation, love and above all else, letting the past ‘go’. I decided to not let anything I’d ever done, said or didn’t say  effect me emotionally ever again.

You know I don’t get it right every time, but by being aware of it, and recognizing it, my friendship with me improves every day. I have made a new list, it’s quite a sizeable list now, and it’s a list of all the things I really like about me, the remarkable things I do and feel.

I make it a habit to read that list every few days.  Sure I make mistakes, but every mistake is a learning experience. 

I have forgiven myself, and every day I really appreciate who I am becoming. I wish you well on this remarkable journey.

Please take a moment and email me your comments, I'd be delighted to read what you have to say. 

Namaste 

Tony

We are not humans living in the physical world.

Do you know, if I said that to 99% of the world's polulation, they'd either put me away in a nice, padded room with a lovely jacket on, or stone/burn me.

We are immesurably powerful Souls who have chosen to have a physical existence so we can FEEL feelings and remember who we are. We are all ONE, we're all made up of the same 'stuff', in fact everything you can see, smell, taste- the trees, rocks, dirt is all made up of tiny particles of light/energy. If you don't believe me google quantum physics and see for yourself.

Our lives are simply what we choose to feel. There are no victims, or perpetrators.

My childhood is an interesting case in point. My stepfather was a drunk, violent paedophile. When he passed over, I thought that I'd feel relief for the years of abuse, but funnily enough, I felt grateful.

Yeah, I was confused too until I worked it out. You see, the person I have become today is because of what took place. Instead of continuing the programming, I became obsessed and determined to become the best dad I could be. Now none of us is perfect, but I have never hit my 2 girls, they have become my best friends and we enjoy a wonderful, deep, respect-based relationship.

I realised that the Soul of my stepfather, and my Soul had agreed to come together in this journey and 'play' out our relationship. I believe we all do this as Souls, to come to learn and teach each other that which is most appropriate for this particular journey.

With this in mind, you can easily see that if, at a Soul level, we all agreed to what will happen and how we will feel around it, there are no victims.

Ok, so if you say that to 99% of the population, they'd stone/burn/put you away at the 'funny farm'.

Just imagine never feeling like a victim again... It's not hard, it's just a habit.

Become and observer of your own ego-mind, if you don't know how, buy Tolles book the Power of NOW. Every emotion you/we have can be observed, and if you don't like it, change the way you're looking at it, choose to feel differently. Choose to feel lighter, brighter, send random bursts of LOVE to people you see on the street.

I read somethign recently that I liked:

The stupid neither forgive nor forget

The naive forgive and forget

The wise forgive, but don't forget.

I wish you love, light and laughter on this incredible journey, visit me at www.diamondenergetics.com